It's not about the kids. It's not about the job. It's not about religion or politics.
Unless, of course, I want it to be.
Perfection for J in comments
First to Jessica - everyone's ideal husband is different and so the secret to finding him is there is no real hard-and-fast rule. ;) Of course that said, the best advice is to take your time, don't rush in. Be friends first. Even if you date right away, build a friendship before you delve into forever. The strongest of marriages seem built around best friends. At least that's the way I see it.